The year that never stopped sucking
| March 27, 2015 | Posted by Melinda under Uncategorized |
In the year that never stopped sucking, I just found out that the murder all over the news this morning was one of my best friends from vet school, Whitney Engler.
We originally were going to have lunch today because we were both off clinics, but decided last week to take advantage of an early afternoon instead. It was the best visit we had had since second year, when she chose the small animal track and I chose large animal. We chatted for two hours on everything imaginable, including about the roommate that is suspected of murdering her.
With vet school ending soon and both of us feeling more on the fringe socially than we really wanted, we vowed to each other to make a regular habit of getting together and staying in touch now and for the rest of our careers.
I saw her often in the last week. The last time on Thursday afternoon as we were both leaving clinics for the day only hours before she was murdered.
How did her friendship affect this blog? She was my partner in dog training and taught me what she knew about clicker training and agility, and then we learned the next chapters together. She introduced me to a world of training that went beyond sit, stay, come, and down. Her touch is evident over on Tess’s blog, but also in how I think about equine behavior here.
I am truly, sincerely, completely, over this year. It makes me wonder. Has life always been like this and I was just too busy to notice, or have I truly hit a rather overwhelming string of tragic occurrences?
This tragedy is not about me. This is about Whit and her family. But at this point I have so much baggage from this year that the line between those two concepts is extremely fuzzy. And I think I can be forgiven for that right now.
Sigh. So awful. I guess that’s we stop our introvert tendencies and force ourselves to seize these opportunities to spend time with the people that matter. Hugs.
Oh, I’m so sorry. I’m glad you did get to see her and catch up, but that doesn’t make up for her missing future. Tragic.
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So sorry to hear this. Love you lady. *hugs*
Nothing to say. You would think the year would have the decency to get better on a calendar basis.
How awful!
Has the dog been found yet, at least?
I’m so sorry the world is ganging up on you…maybe it’s done now? That would be fine….
No, the Rosie is still missing. She was whitneys emotional support dog and agility dog. She has a tendency to be fearful towards men and from the media reports that initially said there were two dogs in the house that were fine (roommate apparently also had a dog) so I’m unclear when Rosie escaped or went missing. I’m guessing it’s when the SWAT team went in and door were open etc and she saw her opportunity to get away from the craziness.
Looks like they just found Rosie (the dog) 🙂
Mel, I am so very sorry for your loss. The story is terrible and very sad. This has been a tough year for you. It’s ok for you to feel heartbroken, exhausted and dismayed. I feel the need to also add, however, that life isn’t normally this sad. You have had an exceptionally tough run of it lately. Cut yourself slack wherever you need it and embrace whatever positivity you can find. My thoughts are with you and the others affected by the tragedy.
Glad to hear that Rosie has been found. I am so sorry that you have had such a year of suck and uncertainty. I would say come to NZ, we need large animal vets, but bringing 3 large dogs and 2 horses would be stupidly expensive!
I hope that the suck levels reduce and my thoughts are with you as you cope with the loss of your friend.
Omg, this sent chills up my spine.. I am so sorry. There are no words during such a tragedy that I can say that will help things feel any better for you.Just very so sad for you and her family. I am glad that Rosie was found. I hope that whatever cloud is hanging over some of us (having one bad thing happen after another) is going to lift .. I really do. Healing thoughts and prayers begin sent your way. So sorry mel
Absolutely horrific.I am so so incredibly sorry 🙁
I wish words could change what happened. 🙁 I’m so deeply sorry Mel.