|July 15, 2009||Posted by Melinda under Uncategorized|
Whether we consider ourselves introverts, extroverts, or something in between; I believe that relating to other people is part of the human existence. Activities and hobbies can be instant “portal” to interacting with someone in a meaningful way. I think of horses and music as a universal “language” and I think that they, more than any other hobby, are extremely powerful “portals”.
I have two examples:
Example 1: On my June trip to Alabama I was in the Phoenix airport, waiting to board the plane to Birmingham. A women spied my XP sweatshirt and I spied her Tipperary helmet fastened to her carry on. In the 10 minutes it took to board the plan, we knew what brand of saddles we each rode, our horse sports (past and present), breed of horse, future competition plans, other other *important* details. My manager, travelling with me, looked on with shock and amazement. I probably know more about that women than my co-workers that I have worked with for the last 3 years. Horses were an instant, powerful portal into each of our lives.
Example 2: I was practicing my fiddle outside the hotel last night (yes, I’m in Alabama again this week), when I guy ran up and asked if I minded him joining in on the harmonica and jamming with me a bit. After 15 minutes or so of jamming, he put them away, thanking me profusely for the “tremendous blessing” he received of being allowed to play for me. Driving away, he stopped by again and thanked me, saying that he doesn’t get to play with others often, but the session had given him confidence that he could jam with others. Again, an instant, powerful connection to another person. Not as much personal information was shared, but playing music is another, very personal, way to share your life with someone.
Thought of the Day
So how about you? Has a hobby, endurance or otherwise, given you an unique opportunity to bond with someone “just passing through”? I’ve noticed that some of my hobbies such as running, don’t give me the same *connection* as horses and music do. Maybe it goes as far as exchanging PR times, number of marathons, or discussing the possibility of an ultra.
What happens to a person that doesn’t have a *portal* like horses or music to relate to other people in a meaningful way? Or does everyone find something unique that bonds them to other people? Is that why (getting political here) people get into self-destructive behaviors like illegal drugs, inappropriate sex (insert your definition is here), etc.? To try and relate in a meaningful, powerful way?