|October 5, 2009
|Posted by Melinda under Uncategorized
Farley’s full brother is up for sale. Here is the ad.
(craigslist ad removed since link has long since come down! Edited Oct 2014)
I want this horse so bad. Farley has been absolutely incredible. I’m not sure why he is recommended for a experienced rider, his breeder said as a 2 year old he was sweet and responsive.
When I was notified, it was all I could do to resist picking up the phone and making an appointment to see this guy. Fortunately I was at Matt’s house and while he does not tell me what to do with my life, he is an excellent sounding board and usually asks the right questions. I think I have made the right decision.
So, why am I not running towards this full speed with arms wide-open. Here is the list of reasons that I repeat to myself when a panic attack hits me that I MUST have this horse (which right now is approximately every 2 hours).
1. When I had 2 horses, all I did was horses. Everything else in my life was neglected. I was stressed all the time, didn’t have time for friends and family, didn’t play my fiddle, and generally felt guilty all the time for what I wasn’t getting done in my life.
2. I got a second horse because Minx was lame and it was becoming obvious that she was not going to be the endurance horse I wanted her to be. Now it’s different. Farley is everything I could ask for.
3. It’s inconvenient to have horsey friends without horses, and to not have a 2nd horse. That being said, I know people with horses that will and do let me borrow them for trail rides with friends. It’s inconvient to not be able to do all the rides I want. However, I have less $$ with 2 horses and in reality did less rides when I had 2 horses.
4. Is it a coincidence that only after I was down to one horse that I started getting done what I REALLY wanted to do with my horses? Lessons – on my list for 3 years. Finally got started this fall. Tevis – only happened when I was down to one horse.
5. Yes, I could financially support another horse. Problem – I wouldn’t be saving a significant amount of money for school, would be dicey if I could continue lessons, and there’s a good possibility I would spend a substantial portion of my time being stressed about money.
6. It’s different with 2 horses. With one horse I pamper and take the extra time to do special things for my pony. Whether that’s giving baths, extra grooming, hand grazing, or doing a traditional standing wrap when trailering – the horse gets extra attention and that results in a greater bond, which results in me getting more satisfaction out of my horse. Farley LOVES the extra attention and absolutely thrives on it. I think there’s a lot to the advice I got from a long-time horseman when I first started riding – the bond between one horse and one rider is just different.
7. I’m going back to school (graduate school) in less than 2 years. One horse is doable. Two is not. One horse is easier to fit into major life changes. Two is not. My boarding stable is up for sale. Once it sells, things might stay the same, or they may not. Finding a new stable for one horse is doable. Even if the price of board doubles (I’m getting an excellent deal right now). Two may not be feasible.
8. One horse forces me to slow down, smell the flowers, enjoy my friends company. This year, after Minx died, I visited Grandparents, cousins, and sisters. I reconnected with old friends.
9. I have a tendancy to schedule and shove into my life a maximum amount of activities until I am at the very brink of insanity. The past 3 weeks I have focused on cutting activities, with many apologies to people and organizations to whom I have made commitments. For the first time in months (years?) I have free weekends on the calendar.
10. It is not the right time. It just isn’t.
What I so desperately want for myself right now, may not be the right thing. But **&#$*#^$ it hurts!
I would really like to see this horse given a shot at a good career. If I was at a different spot in my life, if I wasn’t about to go through a major life change in 18 months. If I had my own pasture and was only faced with incremental cost increases instead of a doubling in board, if only…..
Even with the experienced rider warning I think he’s worth a look. He’s an Arab who doesn’t have a job. It may be nothing more than that. I can’t say enough good things about Farley’s personality and attitude on the trail. It may or may not be in this guy, but when I talked to the breeder, it sounds like Farley’s attitude is a family trait. There’s a good chance this guy has it.