Wedding stuff – now no password
|July 20, 2014||Posted by Melinda under Mel's Life|
Today is about the accessories. I’m finding that a LOT harder than the dress, so if anyone wants to chime in, I would appreciate the advice.
Let’s start with what we have.
First, the dress. It came this week (yeah!) but needed to be hemmed (bummer). Dropped it off this morning but took a couple of selfies of the neck line so you guys could see what I’m working with.
I borrowed some jewelry from a friend and found out very quickly that because the neck line is mostly small cultured pearls, with some silver sequins mixed in, I need to stick with pieces that are silver metal colored (not yellow gold), and wearing pieces that are 100% rhinestones look a little weird. It works better if there is some pearl motif with the crystals.
Based on a friend’s recommendation to check out the 1928 jewelry company, and having tried on a pair of earrings that were perfect except they needed pearls, I bought these earrings:
And, I bought this bracelet in town today. Was looking at a “chunkier” bracelet but some gals at the counter gave me some advice and said this one was a better choice for an overall presentation and balance of jewelry.
I have 2 more things I’m struggling with – shoes and hair.
The shoes are an easier choice. I have three – all similar heights and price range. Is there one that you like better?
Product links for the shoes:
Shoe number 3 was reported to not be comfortable for one user and her foot kept slipping forward which makes me a bit leery? but I like how relatively simple it is. Does the zipper in the back of the shoe make it look stupid?
And now we move to my bigger problem.
I don’t have a clue what to do with it.
I don’t particularly want it down.
I’m most comfortable and think it looks cute in a low pony tail. Especially with an extreme side part.
I tried a bunch of pinterest hair styles and took pics and the pulled back with a side part was the one that looked the best.
But I just don’t know what to do with it. It’s shorter than it usually is. I want something relatively simple.
I’ve thought about a now pony tail with a silver colored “pony tail cuff”. Or maybe a large hair barrette? Or something else I’m not thinking of? Could I get away with something blue colored? Do I accept my fate and wear my hair down with a side clip? Can I have my low ponytail and and made it look OK?
I tried some headbands and thought they were cute….but I feel like there’s just too much sparkly crap on me with it on. So I nixed it.
So. Any thoughts on what to do with my hair? I thought about a pin on veil so I could just hind my pulled back hair under it but they are all so LONG. At least down to my elbows. I would be fine with a simple one that came just to the base of my neck or shoulders or something but apparently those don’t exist.
These are the finishing touches, so hopefully everything will be set by the end of this week. I get my dress back next weekend and Matt picks up his suit a week from Monday (he got it tailored).
Whoo hoo for getting crap done!
My dress is being hemmed so that my shoes will show, even though the little asian lady who was doing the pinning adamentaly refused to hem it higher (ie ankle length). Sigh. I told her she was the expert and I trusted her (but I was also wearing lower shoes than I planned, which I didn’t tell her so hopefully the dress will be shorter. *evil laugh*.). My ankles won’t show but hopefully as high as my instep will. Do NOT want to be holding up my dress the whole day!
Shoe pick would be #1, #3, #2.
As far as hair…I’m of no help. I never knew what to do with mine when it was short. I would say, though, that if a low ponytail is what you are comfortable in and you feel flatters you, go with that and look for a pretty clip or wrap for it. If you do an extreme side part, you can also “wisp” some face-framing strands from the opposite side and even put a little curl in them.
Cover up hair with veil? Which would mean finding one that doesn’t look absolutely stupid lol.
Lovely dress, great neck and back line. I’d go with shoe #1, but I’d probably go somewhere to find one to try on, you want it to be comfy!
As for hair I’m pretty useless, but I think the pony would be nice, and show off the neck of the dress nicely too. The headband is a little cute for me. Maybe a silver ribbon, or almost bangle-type pony holder? One time I had some tiny little sparkly clips all over my hair, they were cute (from a cheap accessory store like Claires).
This is fun, thanks for sharing!
Definitely shoe #1, the dangly bits will echo the earrings (which I love)
Hair:how about a comb or fascinator with pearls? I just did a quick etsy search for “hair accessories pearls” and that turned up a lot of strange stuff, but a lot of classy, pretty stuff too. With that neckline AND earrings AND a bracelet (AND a ring too, of course) you risk being overloaded. Go with a small accent rather than another major point of interest.
I say: Let the dress do most of the work, it’s gorgeous.
Totally agree. I think that’s why I’m struggling because I really feel like I’m “sparkly” enough and adding anything big to my head is just going to be too much.
Crysta sent me some links for some simple up-dos that will work for short hair, including a french twist so I’m thinking I will do that. For the “point of interest” now I’m thinking a small soft white flower +/- pearl on a clip that will be unobtrusive yet will make the updo look finished?
I agree that shoe #1 fits in best with the earrings and dress.
As for a veil- Do you know anyone crafty that could take some tulle from JoAnne’s or Michael’s or somewhere and attach it to a comb? That way you’ll get exactly what you want… Or you can try David’s or Amazon.
You guys have been awesome – both here and the people that have privately messaged me. right now here’s my thoughts
– I have been warned that buying bridal shoes online is a mistake (for fit purposes etc). I’ll try ot find somewhere local to try them on, and I’ve been searching craigslist to see if there’s something reasonable near me (the people who pay $450 dollars for their shoes and are trying to sell them for a $100 are crazy!!!!!!! – I want something $25 or less!).
– I’m looking at some simple updos that will work for short hair with lots of bobby pins and hairspray. Thinking a small white flower on a clip as a “focus” point to make it look more finished.
– Still undecided on veil. Most of them look like mosquito nets to me, and most people on craigslist are selling veils + dress, not seperately.
I like shoe #1 as well. How long will you be wearing them? I ended up ditching mine right after “I do” and slipping into my Tevas instead for the rest of the night. If you do that, they only need to be comfy for a little bit but watch the hem on that beautiful dress if you go down into flatter shoes.
For you hair, make sure with all those bobby pins and hair spray it doesn’t give you a headache especially if you are used to having it loose. All that weight plus it not being able to move can really cause your head to hurt quickly.
I don’t think that my dress is short enough to wear flats. I begged the seamstress to shorten my dress to ankle length with my shoes but she wouldn’t do it. I should have been more firm, but at the time I was like “you are the expert” but now thinking about it, really hoping that the fact the shoes I ordered (i indeed ordered shoe #1) means My dress will be even shorter…..That being said I can usually wear shoes for an evening no problem. It’s only when I do heels that are beyond 4″ that I have to slip them off, so I think I’ll be fine.
Thanks for the reminder about the hair. 99% of the time I wear it up in a pony tail type situation (high ponytail as opposed to lower) and when it’s longer I regular have it in a braid or bun so I don’t *think* i’ll have a problem but I will go ahead and try the bobby pins and hair spray a couple of times BEFORE to make sure…..like you said about the not being able to move – I could see where that could cause a problem….(the first thing I do when I get a migraine is put my hair down if it’s been up all day….)
I usually wear *heels* for an evening no problem……ugh. My brain needs an autocorrect!
I too vote for #1 when it comes to the shoes. As for the hair, I’d go the sparkle-free route. I actually like the way the dress looks with your hair pulled back, like in the first 2 photos. Maybe some sort of simple updo or a bun, if it’s doable with your current length of hair? Another option is to work the Greek goddess look of the dress and go with something like a few flowers in your hair or a flower wreath. I went the flower wreath route. You can see my wedding photos on my FB photo album titled “Our wedding! Finally!” I got my flower wreath from a woman on eBay who made them custom for $20, out of real dry flowers and whatever color you wanted. I’d go for something really, really simple if you chose to go for this look. Maybe like this: http://indulgy.com/post/etSy8Mkz42/flower-hair-wreath-lace-wreath-grecian-brida (Apparently this is “in” right now? So many more options when I searched now vs in 2008!)
Beautiful everything! LOVE the earrings especially. For hair, an up-do would look lovely, maybe with small decorative clip like you said somewhere in the back. As for shoes, since you’re going silver (instead of white – which would need to match shade of dress exactly) just go to regular shoe stores. I got my wedding shows at payless for under $30. =]